Everyone gets depressed sometimes. And you understood at first. Or if you didn’t understand, you could at least deal and show up. And you could pick up the household slack, that’s what partners do. And you miss sex but everyone has different sex drives and you get it, kind of. And yes, it was hard, but everyone has periods where things aren’t great. But they have been depressed for years, YEARS. They have struggled with getting out of bed, and being angry all the time, and wanting to see no one for years. Friends, family and the internet talk about date nights and being supportive but your struggle involves getting them to leave the house or even to take a shower. At this point, you are starting to feel depressed 

Friends, books, classes, they all help a little. You feel like you have a PhD in depression at this point. You know the symptoms, the triggers, the cognitive distortions. Heck, you know the name of the last three trial drugs released by the FDA at this point for dealing with chronic drug-resistant depression. You’ve mentioned Ketamine or Magnet therapy. And they try some of it, sometimes, but really, they just want you to GO AWAY and let them be depressed.

This group involves learning about yourself, not your partner. This is a place for you to be around others who are in this same struggle, asking themselves similar questions. The help offered here isn’t the same ol’ advice from your well meaning family and friends. It’s from people who have been in the trenches too. 

This group is for you to start living the life you want. This is about learning about your boundaries and needs and what you have a right to ask for.  At the end, you’ll know what you value, how to show up with compassion and honesty, and how to love life again. Start the journey now, reach out.